The experience of losing a child is one that no parent should have to go through. Sadly, many of us do. Whether the loss was due to a medical decision in response to a prenatal diagnosis or if it was a still birth, a miscarriage at 7 weeks, a neonatal or infant death, the pain is no less severe. The time we do or do not get to spend with our children does not measure the depth of our love for them. Nor does time measure the length of your grief process. Everyone is different and everyone’s experience with loss and grief is different. The important thing to remember is to be gentle with yourself and to know that you are not alone.
One of the unfortunate realities of high risk pregnancy or premature birth is the risk of losing a baby. Thankfully, many resources exist to help you on your grief path and to help your friends and family understand what you’re going through.
While no loss of a baby could ever be compared, it can be helpful to connect with a parent who has been in where you are. We are happy to connect you with another mom or family who has had similar loss experiences. They can be the listening ear that understands this devastating tragedy.
Started by Francesca Cox, bereaved mother of Jenna Belle, Still Standing Magazine is an online magazine specifically dedicated to the infertility, pregnancy and infnat loss community. She writes:
"After the numbness that somewhat paralyzes you into limbo and launches you back into the real world… after the anger, and the frustration and the never-ending cycles of the so-called stages of grief, we hope you might find the courage to embrace life. Embracing life is not an easy step to take, but it is possible. One day at a time, one moment at a time."
Visit the site for engaging conversations with grieving parents, poignant articles, and a vast array of resources for all members of a grieving family.
Each year the Zoe Rose Memorial Foundation recognizes Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day with a special candle lighting remembrance event. Parents who understand the often silent grief of losing a baby gather together in a community of understanding and support as we share our stories, our memories, and our babies. Many families are unable to attend in person so this video offers a way for them to connect with the annual event. Starting in 2013 we will create a new video to be shared and encourage parents to send us photos or ultrasound pictures to include.
This event is completely free, but you must register your baby each year. You may also choose to receive a personalized photo card with your baby's name handwritten in calligraphy, also at no charge.
If you would like to include your baby's photo or ultrasound picture in this year's memorial video please email Jen Becker at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Additionally, if you would like to share your story of loss to be housed on our website to encourage and offer hope to grieving parents please select the button on the right and send us an email.